If you’re thinking of breaking up with them for sexual compatibility, just fucking do it

EDIT: I WONT SEND THE POST GUYS. The whole context behind this post is I just found out he was shit talking me to mutual friends. Saying I should have tried harder and ~communicated~ better about sex. Should’ve mentioned it up front

I just need to rant here. See if anyone has had the same experience.

F25 M25. Together for 5 years. The first time we had sex he lasted 2 minutes and it literally never got better. In the first year of our relationship he tried some exercises and masturbated differently for like 2 weeks before giving up. The length of PIV sex has not changed our entire relationship. No foreplay either

I brought this up about 5 months into our relationship and he had a complete emotional breakdown. I didn’t even emphasize the length of PIV. I just said I wanted to enjoy it too and want “more”. Tongue, fingers, anything. He pointed for about a week before coming around and I genuinely tried to help. I drew him a fucking diagram to find the clit. I was patient.

And nothing changed…..

I brought it up again 6 months later and he had yet another breakdown. He cried about how ANY request I made for foreplay or an orgasm every once in a while made him feel bad about himself. And you know what? I APOLOGIZED TO HIM. For making him feel insecure an insufficient. He said maybe if I made him feel better about himself then he would put in any effort. So I put all my efforts into raising his self esteem. Constant compliments. “Your Dick is perfect” “you’re so sexy” “we don’t even need sex I’m just so happy being around you”.

Then came our senior year of college and with his new found confidence he decides he wants anal. I had a bad experience with anal but I said I’d do it as long as he warmed me up and went slow. So of course he shoved it in dry and had YET ANOTHER BREAKDOWN when I stopped him. We had a screaming blowout fight about it and almost broke up.

Post college we were long distance and whenever we’d see eachother it was the same deal: sex with little to no action for me. Over in 2 minutes for him. I’d bring it up every other month. He’d put in effort the next time we saw each other but then go back to nothing. During one of our convos he revealed that his lack of attention to me was “internalized misogyny”. He said that boys aren’t taught that girls like sex so sex is entirely for the boy. So in the philosophy he didn’t have to think about my enjoyment. He said he was trying to unlearn it but it was sooooo hard :(((…. And I bought that shit. 3 years in and I was like “makes perfect sense”. Fuck you! He alway new how to use feminist language to make things not his problem.

5 years in I had enough. I gave him an ultimatum. You make me cum every time or we never have sex. You can initiate whenever you want but don’t start something you can’t finish. I became a petty bitch. I let him eat me out for 20 minutes with him thinking we were gonna have sex. Then when I was done I just got up and took a shower. We broke up soon after.

Then I went and had sex with someone else and I almost cried afterwards. It was just so easy. He touched me without me begging. He lasted long enough for me to cum. The cuddles afterwards were great because we were both satisfied. God I wish I did this years ago

Tldr: fuck off with “communication”. Some people will never change. Has anyone else felt like this?

Edit: this post is me just venting feelings I’ve been bottling up for a long time. This is 5 year of my worst bitchy feelings in one post. There a lot of other stuff that goes on in a relationship besides sex. Some good some bad and none of it mention here. This is me just screaming into the void of Reddit

One important thing I forgot to include. During our entire relationship whenever he got drunk he would tell me how much he wanted to fuck other people and what he wanted to do with them. Like we’d go out to a bar and he’d get drunk and tell me which girls he wanted a threesome with and how he wanted to eat them out for hours. Then we’d go home and he flop around on me for 2 minutes.

Typing that out, its insane I stayed that long

Submitted September 07, 2023 at 12:39AM by Leading_Gain8706 https://ift.tt/Q8XIFph